Should my fiance invite the guy she cheated on me with to our wedding, because he is her friend?

my fiancee` cheated on me with one of her good friends, who is also her ex and her brothers best friend. His mom is very close to her and she is getting invited to the wedding. Should he and his grilfriend get and invitation as well?
Should my fiance invite the guy she cheated on me with to our wedding, because he is her friend?
Let me think - ummmmmmm..... no.
Reply:Hell no. What a slap in the face that is to you. I mean if you dont care thats fine but what an insult. If shes gung ho on wanting him there I sure wouldnt marry her. I know thats not what you asked but I had to say it. Big NO on this one.
Reply:Umm no if he goes than u know their will be some serious drama!!!
Reply:um. this is simple NO!!!!!!!


why would he get an invite? thats just plain stupid if ya ask me. and well, ya did ask





If she cheated on you, why are you even marrying her? If she did it once she'll do it again. Might not be with the same guy, but still.have some common sense will ya? GEESH..


Tell her NO, if she has a problem with that, tell her she can met HIM at the alter because you wont be there.
Reply:Absolutely NOT.....No way!!
Reply:This is a person that you have the right to veto, regardless of the familial connections. Period. This person caused you certainly a lot of pain, and is not an appropriate guest for a wedding (what if he stands up and says that you two shouldn't be married??). You have the right to be happy during your wedding and not think about issues like infidelity.
Reply:Heck no!! She's lucky that you forgave her, and she lost his friendship the moment she crossed the line with him. If he gets upset, oh well! I'm sure you weren't too happy when they cheated!! If she gets upset, then I would question why your marring her. She needs to understand that this doesn't make you feel comfortable, and you don't want to be reminded of what they did on your big day!
Reply:Being that you guys are about to get married and are going to have to start making decisions together that is something that you need to talk about together. But to me i wouldnt invite him because your almost starting off on the wrong foot in a way by having someone she cheated on your with at your wedding. He should not want to go anyway because of the history, but either way thats a collective decision between you and your soon to be wife. It doesnt matter how close they were but the mom should be a good representation of that family where he shouldnt have to come but if your uncomfortable with that then you need to say so if you not then still express how you feel cause its going to be important to your marriage being strong and lasting.
Reply:Why in the world would you marry someone who cheated on you?


You are better than that.
Reply:NO WAY! damn if u REALLY want to marry this women then DON'T U DARE invite him. He'll just ruin the wedding, even worse, ur fiance could run away with him! y in hell even marrying this girl if she cheated on u? I'm a girl and I know how many of the sluty types work (I have loads of sluts at my school). She'll just cheat on u again, do u really want that?





hope u work it out... somehow,





lyss
Reply:If your fianc茅 has even an ounce of common sense, she will not invite this person. He is not her "friend" - he is her ex and her affair. It would show tremendous lack of judgement on her part to even consider inviting him.





Unless of course you are totally ok with it; but you asking this question makes me guess that it would make you uncomfortable (to say the least). Make your wishes known.
Reply:NO. You should not have her ex lover there! Are you crazy! You should not marry her if she plans on letting the ex come. He should NO longer be her friend either. You dont let her invite him cause that is a reminder of her unfaithfulness plus it gives her temptation to cheat if she still has feelings for him. Also there is a risk he will try and stop your wedding all of a sudden. SO NO NO NO NO


do not invite him!
Reply:Over my dead body! would be my reply if I were you. I can't even believe she still has contact with this dude after cheating on you with him and you allow it! You're asking for BIG trouble....she needs to give up that friendship for your sake, IMO...her husband should come first,, and if she cannot understand that, she has no business getting married to you ro anyone else.
Reply:oh heck no!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Reply:Yeah, then when he shows up get totally wasted and beat the ***** out of him... That's what I would do, but I wouldn't marry someone who cheated on me in the first place
Reply:Simple answer: NO! It's just not appropriate. Even if he is her friend this is one time he should be excluded...
Reply:OH MY GOD! NO, NO, NO. Even if this is all over, I don't think it would do any good to have someone at your wedding who caused conflict in your relationship. Getting married is an extremely emotional time in both of your lives, and heaven forbid if anyone get drunk and decide that now is the time to iron out feelings that weren't quite realized until the best day of your relationship. He should have thought about being one of her "good friends" and whether or not he would miss this day when he was dipping in someone else's well.
Reply:no, because inviting him to your wedding is going to be a constant reminder to you of her infidelity. this is your special day and it is supposed to be about you and your wife to be. she shouldn't have even invited this man because of the infidelity situation. it's up to you but i wouldn't mess up my special day with that type of reminder.
Reply:Why are you marrying a cheating whore in the first place?
Reply:OH H-E-L-L N-O!!!!! THAT IS SICK. I would NEVER do that to my fiance. Well I've never cheated on him either and never will.
Reply:dude,to put this nicely NO F U C K I N G WAY, i understand that you must be a pretty understanding guy and thats great. your cheating H O of a future wife got real lucky that you forgave her you must be a pretty chilled out guy,but lets be real,if you invite the man the F U C K E D your future wife behind your back,i will make it my personal mission in life to track you down a ********* slap some sense into your sorry a s s.
Reply:NO!!!! An engagement is not a time to fill your life with last flings. If she cheated on you before the wedding, a ceremony is NOT going to change her ways.
Reply:Thats Really up to you.But what I would do is probably not invite the guy she cheated on you with, his mom maybe yes, Even though it might seem rude not to invite him, but invite his mom its no where as bad as cheating.
Reply:If he was only her ex bf that she is still close too I would say it is okay, but this is a man she cheated on you with and he should not be at the wedding if it is going to cause you to feel bad. Guests are decided upon by the couple, not just one of them. You need to tell her that you do not want him there because of their past history. She should love you enough to understand how you feel about this.
Reply:Well since your not going to like me much-even if I really watered down my answer-may I say your a good guy inside-yet you dont got a clue about marriage. You stated that you want your g/f to sleep with other guys-yet I would say that this is your ego knowing where she is coming from-involved with her ex to some degree still.


may I just say if you consider what helped me it will help you too=John 3 repented of my sins asked Jesus in and got born again=prayed=





"Jesus I am sorry for my sins come into my heart and help me, be my best friend, amen."





Revelation 3:19%26amp;20 "I Jesus love you and speak from heaven to let you know that I knock on your heart door to come in and be your friend, when you repent from sin (even one lie) and ask me in."





prayin for you friend, David-like the poem footprints let him carry you and it will come out for the best for you.
Reply:heck no...I would have NONE of that.
Reply:This song is playing in my head:





I thought I knew her well


I really couldn't tell


That she had another lover on her mind......


(words from Who's Cheating Who by Alan Jackson)








Are you kidding? That would be a big NO in my book! I wouldn't have to think twice! By reading some of your other questions, it seems to me that you two have issues to resolve before you consider marriage. Trust will make or break a marriage. If you do not have trust...you have nothing. You two need to figure out if you should be together and if she is still harboring feelings for her ex. If that question is still in her mind...you two will never make it. Life is too short....make sure her heart is in it as much as yours! Wishing you the best!
Reply:no way!!!!!! she should be willing to sacrifice EVERYTHING in another male ....because you are everything that she needs in a man!! it's HORRIBLE that she cheated on you to begin with and if you don't like the idea of the "other" guy being at your wedding.... then your expression of that feeling to her should be enough to set you free of that worry. She should understand, and the opinion of the "other" guy doesn't matter. His opinion is squish.
Reply:It sounds like your uncomfortable with this...I personally would tell my fiancee that I'm not comfortable with this and if she respects your feelings she wouldn't invite him..this day is yours too and your feelings should be considered.
Reply:call the wedding off and find someone else.





She will never have him out of her life and will always be there when you are not.





You deserve better than this and don't listen to her when she says," it's in the past" because future can happen too.





The trust was out the window once and you cannot go into a marriage after that.





Forgive and forget means, forgive her and forget her!!!
Reply:HELL NO. Stand firm. This is also your wedding, not just hers. Good luck bro.