Inviting some couples who are engaged but living apart to our wedding - one invitation or separate?

We have a few couples invited to our wedding who don't live together yet but are engaged. Is it proper to send them just one invitation or should we send separate ones? If we just send one, can I send it to the women's addresses and just include the men's names on the invitation? They are both girlfriends of mine who are engaged and one is my bridesmaid. I am friends with their fiance's too, but closer to them of course.





Thanks!
Inviting some couples who are engaged but living apart to our wedding - one invitation or separate?
Engaged couples may be invited together as long as both names are on the invitation. In other words, don't put "Miss Jane Brown and Guest", but "Miss Jane Brown and Mr. Joseph Hu". Send them to the girlfriends, since they're who you know.





Put the names on both the envelopes and the invitations.





This is not just acceptable etiquette but also cheaper!
Reply:Correct form is to send one invitation to each address.





A polite hostess will do this for several reasons:





First, people who live apart while engaged may have moral, religious, or personal reasons for that choice; and you would not want to imply to them that you think those reasons are irrelevant, or that they ought to be living together.





Second, you cannot have "first-class" and "second-class" guests. If you send only one invitation you must decide which of the two guests will receive it, and the other guest automatically knows that you consider him secondary.





Third, it is always possible that the engagement may be called off. If you imply by sending one invitation to your preferred guest's address that the invitation is really for her and her guest, she may assume that she can bring a new boyfriend; and her former fiance whom you say is a friend might assume that he is disinvited -- or that he can bring his new girlfriend. You can lose control of your guest list.
Reply:If you are closer friends with the girls, you would send the invite to their home. The envelope would said "To Miss Jenny Smith and Guest". This means the invited girl is allowed to bring a date, and therefore her fiance is invited as well. Also, if something bad happens (A breakup), no ex-fiances. Your friend is still entitled to a date, but her ex-fiance won't be invited to the wedding.





If you were equally close to the girls and their fiances, then you would send invites to all of them and exclude the "and guest" from the envelope.
Reply:i think one invitation with both names on it is enough. They know you're getting married and they talk to each other all the time, I'm sure. So it will be no big deal to just send one invitation. And send it to the girls' house. Usually it's the girls that are better at remembering dates and planning things and not losing things such as invitations. They will make sure their man goes with them.
Reply:I am really not too for sure





If you send them one invitation, what will happen if they break up ( god forbid ) and you still want the EX- fiances to attend?





If you dont think it will be a problem just use one invitation and either say the persons name with a guest or persons name with the fiances name. hope this has helped and congrats dear
Reply:One invite sent to the person which whom you are friends with. when my bf and i were invited to a wedding it was my friends it was sent to me but addressed to us both.



Reply:Since it's the girls who are your friends, send one invitation to the girls' home with both names on the invitation. Put the girls name first (e.g. Ms. Jane Smith %26amp; Mr. Robert Jones).
Reply:You can send one invitation if you want. I sent separate ones to each person, but that's just me.
Reply:One invitation! And include both their names on the invite but send to the girl's house.
Reply:Send them each an invitation. They all deserve their individual invitations even if they say they don't.