Do I have to invite a co-worker after I sent a save the date, but she quit the company?

We are getting married in September. I'm pretty close to a majority of my co-workers so I decided to invite all of them to my wedding. One of the newer employees that I sent a save the date to quit on very bad terms (she just stormed out and never came back). Because I sent her the save the date, am I obligated to still invite her and her husband? I have no problem with her being there, but most of my co-workers can't stand her, and she left on awful terms with almost everyone. Any insight would be great!
Do I have to invite a co-worker after I sent a save the date, but she quit the company?
Well, yes according to protocol, you do need to invite her. From what you say, however, no one would be happy about it least of all her. So you dont have to I suppose( thats one reason why I hate 'save the dates', besides that if people dont show it looks like they dont care ) Another thought is to contact her by phone or email if you are on good terms and it does sound like you are a diplomat. I mean just because everyone else doesnt get along that is THEIR problem. She would probably be happy to hear from you and just talk it out. I bet if you said that under the circumstances I wasnt going to send an invitation unless you want to see those people but my wife and I would love to get together with you sometime..........I mean is that the kind of terms you are on.? I dont know actually I am babbling on but in any event , Congratulations.
Reply:nope, not at all.
Reply:I don't think so. I had to deal with something like this. I was terminated from one my positions by telphone a few months ago I don't really know why and don't want to get into it. I thought we were really close to my co workers. Some of them we really were but we had to make a decision to not invite them because of the sticky situation.





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Reply:Yes, you are still obligated to send an invitation to EVERYONE you sent a save the date to. However, she will probably just decline when she RSVPs, so don't worry.





That's why save the dates are, in many circumstances, not a good idea to use. People's invitee lists are too uncertain, that many months away from the wedding date.
Reply:If you are still talking to her, yes, you should,





If you haven't seen the woman since she left and don't talk on a regular basis, then don't. Only oblige if you hear from her before is time to send the invites.





Good luck
Reply:I would still send an invite just because you did give her a save the date card. it would be rude not to invite her still, especially if you say you wouldnt mind her being there. chances are she wouldnt go anyways if she knows these people she left on bad terms with will be there. but you dont want to take the chances that she is planning on going since she has the save the date card and she doesnt get an invite.
Reply:it's up to you but I am sure she is not thinking about it... she prob figures you invited everyone and now that she doesn't work there she won't be invited. I would personally just skip it... less drama the better.
Reply:some might say your obligated to send an invite however, from experience if your co-workers hate her... where are you going to seat her?? they'll be gossiping and she'll be uncomfortable...plus chances are your never going to see her again if she stormed off...don't bother
Reply:If you really liked her and really want her to be there then I guess. But if you are just worried about hurting her feelings then don't worry about it she'll understand. It's your wedding and you don't want there to be any drama, cuz it sounds like there could be...
Reply:Though you sent a "save the date", it is still proper to send invitations. It's old school. That way everyone knows you care! LOL. And, some of the people may be like me and just forgot where they put the save the date and will forget when the wedding is! Send them anyway.
Reply:That's really your choice. I mean it is YOUR wedding. The way it sounds is she really did leave on horrible terms and I am sure because of that your co-workers are not happy with her. Do you really want a whole bunch of drama at your wedding? If she is a good friend of yours than yes you should invite her but I wouldn't if you only knew her from work just because she left the way she did ya know? Good Luck





CONGRATULATIONS!
Reply:That seems like a whole lot of conflict to bring to your wedding if a majority of your coworkers don't like her. If you were really close or still are please invite her but let her know everyone else is coming so she can decide what she wants to do. I'd not want to be blindsided by that.
Reply:Are you still in contact with her? I dont think you need to invite her if it was just a work formality.
Reply:Just remember this is your wedding, not theirs. I think you should still invite her, she probably won't come anyway, but it would be rude not to.
Reply:I think since you sent the save the date, you should send an invitation. Just because she's on bad terms with everyone else, doesn't mean you should be on bad terms with her just to please them.
Reply:Well if she left on bad terms and knows that your other co-workers are going to be there, she probably won't show anyways if you do invite her.





BUT, I don't see a problem with not inviting her after the save the date, especially if you don't speak to her since she has left the company.