How do you suttely tell someone who invited themselves to a dinner that was not invited in the first place?

Our receptionist basically invited herself to a lunch that our boss annually takes 3 of us out in every Dec, which coinsides with our Birthday Month. This year one of our group, who just joined us and his birthday is in July, is going. Just because this lady, who's birthday is in Nov., wined that she should go, but we've dropped "hints" that this is our working group and she has had previous "lunches" with other secretaries, and that this our time.
How do you suttely tell someone who invited themselves to a dinner that was not invited in the first place?
Honesty is the best policy, but it is up to your boss to tell her that she isn't invited. Someone needs to tell your boss that she has conveniently invited herself to lunch because he is the one who is footing the bill. He is the one who is going to have to explain to her that it is not her "turn" for a free lunch and that she already had hers on "secretary day". Figure out who is going to tell the boss, because someone is going to have to beforehand. Good luck!!!


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Reply:So what? It's up to your boss to tell her "no" or that the occasion is for you all. I would find it pretty rude of you to tell her that she can't go. So what if she goes? You're not paying for it so don't worry about it.
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