How to approach someone invited to your wedding who dresses like a bum?

My cousin is a sweety but she wear the same t-shirt everyday that has holes in it and raggedy old sweatpants I swear for the last year and she doesn't brush her hair but I love her and want her there regardless...Do I just put on the invites formal attire required?
How to approach someone invited to your wedding who dresses like a bum?
Well......I don't dress like a bum except when doing heavy cleaning and yard work around the house, but if I received a wedding invitation that stated "formal attire required" I would have to turn down the invitation, so you might want to re-think your strategy. Honestly, all eyes will be on you and the wedding party, not the guest, so I suspect your cousin could wear anything except her birthday suit and she would probably not even be noticed by most. Give her some credit for knowing when to clean up her act and concentrate on something more important. If she comes dressed in her sweat pants and t-shirt, it's a reflection on HER, not you.
Reply:Generally, I think that dressing up for a wedding should be common sense. However, in your case I think that it would be best to ask your cousin what she is planning on wearng on that day. If she says she is not sure or points out she wants to wear something lets say too casual, then you might suggest her going shopping together. If she agrees then great. Help her choosing a nice outfit. If she does not want to go shopping with you then you get some stuff for her and ask her to try them on. Also, you may ask her if she wants to be your bridesmaid, that way she needs to wear whatever the other bridesmaids are wearing. So, there would be less chance of her "surprising" you by wearing something unapproprate.


Good Luck! Congratulations for getting married!
Reply:People who normally neglect their appearance can surprise you with their formal wear when they're invited to such an occaison.





It's a wedding, it's daft to say formal attire required! I suggest you arrange someone (could be you) to take her shopping, and to chat to her in a friendly way about what she thought of wearing and doing with her hair. Often in weddings girls dress together and get their hair and make up done in the same house or beauty salon, so make sure she gets invited there.. Also, check if she has enough money!!!


Finally, your cousin may dress like a bum, but you certainly sound like one.
Reply:Well, you know better your cousin than us. I don't know how old she is, but the best way to approch her is to talk to her as a reel friend. Express your feelings to her and don't fake anything. In that way she will understand your consern and sooner or later it will make sens to her. Be reel to her.


Congratulation for your wedding.
Reply:Yes...and if she has money issues possibly take her shopping.


Tell her you want her to look her best because you plenty of pictures with you and her together, then pick out some items that you think would look best for her.





If you don't want to go shopping then maybe look at a magazine with her and point out things that would 'look great on her'. Tell her 'this would look so good on you..you should get something like this to come to my wedding..everyone would die!" Just subtle hints that let her know without coming right out and degrading her.





*congrats on getting married*
Reply:Yes put that on the invite? But not to hurt her feelings you might ask her to go to shop with you and help her along with her wardrobe? Make a fun time of it if possible? She may lack the self esteem and need to have you there to spruce her up? Be kind, she might change for the fact that someone cares?
Reply:Yeah, that way there's no confusion and it's on her. I've seen wedding invitations do that and I don't think it's rude or tacky. I've been to some non-formal weddings.
Reply:Yes formal attire is the best wording %26amp; as far as your cousin maybe you two could go shopping together tell her you want her advice %26amp; say to her Oh this would look great on you plan a girls' day %26amp; Congrats to you
Reply:Yes and if she doesn't get the hint, don't let it ruin your day. It really is a small matter in the grand scheme of things.
Reply:I wouldn't approach her because it may hurt your relationship with her. I would put it in the invite.
Reply:Yes, formal attire.
Reply:Yeah, put that on the invite and also maybe take her shopping.
Reply:yeah it says it all...
Reply:Just put it on hers.
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