What is the etiquette for inviting people to a baby shower?

If they live out of state, and you know they can't come, do you still send them an invitation? I don't want anyone's feelings to be hurt by not receiving an invitation, but I also don't want them to think I expect them to travel just for a shower. How do you handle this?
What is the etiquette for inviting people to a baby shower?
I would send an invitation but put a personal note letting them know you are thinking of them and will send pictures and information from the baby shower such as who won the games and what the mommy recieved. And maybe give them a call a couple days later and let them know you in no way expect them to travel that far. But that they will be missed .
Reply:Don't. Send an announcement, but an invite to a shower they certainly can't attend might as well just be a scrap of paper saying "Please send a gift to this address..."





NOT in good taste.
Reply:I Would definently send one,and include a little note that says-or write on the card-I would love for you to come but,seeing that your so far away.... i totally understand if you cannot make it!! all my love, bla bla bla
Reply:give them an invitation. but tell them that if they cant make it you totally understand.
Reply:Send them an invite. If they can't come, they will just R.S.V.P. that they won't be able to make it. Then you don't have to deal with any hurt feelings. And that way, they will know where to send gifts/where her registry is. Have fun!
Reply:Depends on how close you are to the people...send them an invite with a personal note stating you understand that they can't come but wanted to let them know they are included and not obligated to send a gift...
Reply:That's what announcements are for. It's not logical to send invitations to someone you don't expect to attend.
Reply:I would still invite them, if they can't make it they will tell you.
Reply:Always send them the invitation, because chances are you will still get a gift in the mail.
Reply:I would definitely send them an invitation...If they want to come they will and if not they wont...buts its definitely better to get an invitation then not to....You dont want them to feel insulted...I would invite them! Good Luck!
Reply:I totally agree, sending an invitation is kind of saying "send the gifts here". I would send an annoucement, maybe after the shower. Include maybe a picture of the mommy-to-be cutting her cake or holding outfits up to her tummy. Including information about what she got and when the baby is due and who won is games is very nice also. That way they can choose to send a gift maybe later when it is closer to the due date, or not. Then its their choice.
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