One of my friends didint invite me to a baby shower?

i have this friend who lives in texas and i live in minnesota. well anyway i found out that she is having a baby shower. i had asked her why didnt i get a invintation and she said its because she knew i could not make it becuse we are long distance she also said its because she dosent want me to feel like i have to send a gift. what should i do. im so mad at her for not inviting me


im so sad. should i be stressed.
One of my friends didint invite me to a baby shower?
She sounds totally sincere and probably didn't want you to feel as though you needed to send a gift or try to make it for the shower.





Even if you feel rotten, I'd let it go. She should have sent you an invitation, but I don't think she was snubbing you. I do believe she had good intentions. Keep in steady contact with her and I think she'll prove it to you as well.





Oh, and send her a cute little something, something. Or surprise her at the hospital when she has the baby. You'll both feel good for your efforts.
Reply:Would you have gone if you would have gotten an invitation?


I wouldnt think to send any to friends out of state, just because the party only lasts an hour or so, thats a lot of travel for such little time.


Try not to worry about it, its done and over with, hopefully you dont quit a friendship because of this.
Reply:I moved 800 miles from my home state and away from friends and family. This happened to me often. If you are of limited financial means than I am sure she is being honest with you about you not feeling obligated to buy her a gift. Don't be sad and please support her. If you can afford to, still send her a gift and wish her the best. This is an emotional and life changing time for her and she needs her friends support and love.
Reply:Don't be silly. You're not obligated to send a gift unless you want to, and she didn't invite you because you're 1000 miles away. What's the problem?
Reply:It sounds like you're making a mountain out of a mole hill. You live too far away to be invited to a baby shower.
Reply:You are waaaay overreacting. She didn't invite you because she does not like you - it was because she knew it would be at your great expense if you chose to go to Minnesota. Send her a gift, if you wish, and be happy for your friend.
Reply:i would not think of her as a true friend,or you would have got an invite
Reply:nawwww. dont be stressed sweetheart. when u have a baby shower or a party or somthing don't invite her. see how she feels:D
Reply:It sounds like your friend was trying not to put you in a hard position or make you feel obligated or her feel greedy and inconsiderate, if she sent you an invite and you couldn't make it, you would have sent a gift, maybe she didn't want you to think all she wanted from you was a gift. You shouldn't be mad, you should be thankful that you have a considerate friend.
Reply:the invitation should have been sent regardless if you could be there or not so i would tell her how it hurt your feelings, and it would have been nice to have been thought of . but dont hold a grudge to long it will only upset you more tell her if she doesnt think of you as a close friend anymore then its time to go your seperate ways.
Reply:It's okay and maybe she just doesn't know better...An invite would of been the appropriate thing to do...if you don't get invited you don't send a gift. On the other hand if you visit her after the baby is born you or get a card that it's a girl or a boy you would then sent a gift. No matter what if you have a shower or a party she should still be invited. She might not no any bette ... but you do....
Reply:Don't be stressed.... Try to ignore it. If he does not want to invite you so be it, life goes on.
Reply:Would you really travel that far to go to a baby shower that lasts a couple of hours? She was trying to be considerate and not putting you in an awkward position. Get over it and send her a gift anyway to let her know there's no hard feelings and you still want to be part of her special occasion in one way or another. After all, it's not about you.
Reply:Just send her a gift and write " instead of an rsvp" you hurt my feelings but I am a true friend so I want to take part in the celebration and send your baby a present anyway.
Reply:She was being considered believe it or not. What you can do is send her a gift anyway. She'll appreciate it and if she is a good friend she will be closer to you.